Sunday, March 30, 2014

Just a short thought on why marriages fail

Since I have been saved the Bible has been the answer book to all my questions. I don't mean that I would think of a question then look up what the Scriptures said, but before the questions came I covered myself with mass portions of Scripture until the entirety of it became one, the Holy Spirit writing them on my heart. 
I believed then, and so now, that "he would reveal His Word and wisdom to me in due time (His time) in that day that it was needed along with the grace to understand, teach or perform what was shown. I am thoroughly convinced that "to walk with Him we need to wait on Him, His timing, His anointing." All knowledge comes from Him, as does wisdom and faith," but all according to His will "on that day." Don't perceive that you can't gain Scriptural wisdom by just reading the Bible but know that the Word is Spirit and it is "the Mind of Christ", so we need to be full of that self same Spirit in order to "unlock the mysteries of Christ."
If, when I was a babe in Christ, someone would ask me a question, and I had not been revealed an answer that would "deliver or set free" then I would simply say "I don't know, I can pray about it but for now I can't make a supposition about that until I am sure that God has shown me the answer." 
I believe this is the correct way to proceed with Scripture as one "in Christ." Don't know? Don't wing it! If your not part of the answer, don't become part of the problem. If your answer doesn't give hope through faith then it's causing confusion. 

Now to lasts night question that the Holy Spirit put in my heart.

Why do marriages fail?   

The direction this took is about false love having to do with a lack of faith. An emotional, carnal need for companionship instead of real Love "that's shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Spirit." We know that the Love of God (for God is love) is given to us along with faith to believe and receive. Jesus Christ is "the Love of God" "no man cometh to the Father but by Me" "by grace (unconditional Love) we have believed through faith, so now we have the "outline" to know and receive real Love from the vertical and direct it horizontally to others. First we must receive it from above (freely you have received)  then we must release it to others, (freely give). I truly believe that salvation is True Love to us and inspires us to Love God for His great deliverance from hell (justly ours) into His Eternal Promises.....Life and that more abundantly here and then eternally there. Because real Love is all encompassing, (God fills His creation and we, all men, live and move and have our being in Him), included in this is body, soul, mind, emotion, passion, compassion, and controls our thoughts, words and deeds, it fills every fiber of our completeness and makes us whole. 
Companionship (outside of True Love, God) can become a deception from True Love, and have the same effect on both the non believer and ignorant believer, as it fills all the above "emptiness" of man but is only there to meet the needs that are left unsatisfied by True Love. So there is a "need, emptiness" in man that will be filled one way or another, but God only provides one answer and the Scriptures bear out that this True Love is Jesus Christ......the purest expression of "the Love of God." 
At every decade since the beginning of creation, man has tried to replace God, or the gifts of God, (this discussion, Love), with something that would take away the need to be obedient, and obey His commands. The Hebrews wanted Moses, then they wanted a King, some religions need a priest, others need a pastor, (not that Christianity doesn't have structure in God's design), but that Christ is our High Priest, King, and Shepard, He is who we look to and the other ministerial anointing's: pastor, prophet, teacher ect., under His direction, nurture the Body of Christ. It was never meant (then or now) for man to replace the personal communion/intimacy with God by placing someone else between the two. We are the body, Christ is the Head. We are all under Him, all ministries equal, different functions, all necessary to complete the body. 
So there should be no one taking the singular place of Christ but all connected to each other forming His Body supports (lifts up) the Head, Christ. 
Because of the carnal practice of needing a mediator among men we have disconnected ourselves from the True source of Love and the intimacy and completeness that this brings. 
Now both detached believers and non believers have lost hold of the True Source of Love and have fallen into "companionship" to be the answer, mans answer not God's.

So then why do marriages fail?

Any believer (who chooses) or non believer (who doesn't know any better), that feels the emptiness inside them will have a desire to fill the emptiness. If that person doesn't want to "obey God" and turn fully (for the believer) or firstly (non believer) back to God then they will "go the way of the world" and embrace the secular humanistic answers of man. They will embrace companionship with the false hope that it will fill in all the holes left by the absence of "their Creator." They will put the same expectations on companionship (which can and will fail) as they would on True Love (which never fails) with tragic results. This practice in both the church and in the secular realm has a failure rate of at least 50% first time and over 70% second time marriages. Remember that the big difference between True Love and companionship is the presence of God and Unconditional Love instead of an "effort to make function" based on a need to continue. True Love never fails because it always forgives, (70x7 daily), and is blessed by grace through faith, whereas companionship, not out of True Love, can only  become exhausted by unequal effort by one or both sides and fail. Yes companionship can an does exist in True Love but it's existence is based on Gods Love and anointing through Christ it's originator.

Marriages fail because of the root problem.........lack of faith. Not just faith in anything but faith given by God to every man to find True Love and be made complete, as was God's purpose "in the beginning". Some may perceive that there are many things we can have faith in. This is a lie. Man cannot have faith in anything but God. He give it freely for us to find Him and return to His Lordship through Jesus Christ. He is the originator of faith for the purpose of our reuniting with Him for worship, meeting of needs, and Eternal Life.
To have faith in anything or one else is to practice idolatry. Nothing or no one else can insure that what you believe in will be performed according to your need. Nothing nor anyone can replace God for your needs the first one being salvation. That non optional stepping stone of Christ to God. 
This must be understood in it's fullest and deepest context in order to receive the "grace that comes through faith" convenient for each day. Do you have faith in your new car? Then why are new cars broken down on the side of the road, and what does that do to your faith.
Christian faith is based on the promises of God to perform what He said according to His will, and His will is that "what God has joined together let no man set asunder." 
Faith in the "True Love" supplies power to prevail by grace without end........never failing.
Companionship, outside of True Love, is the road map to failure.

Let God be True and every man a liar.

There are more facets to the sin that causes marriages to fail do to the lack of True Love being part of the marriage so more on that later.

For now this will suffice as the root problem to the massive failures in marriages today. Lack of True Love caused by lack of faith to know and receive that True Love.

Love in Christ
J&E 





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